Empowerment

The truth is that your negative feelings about yourself, are unwarranted. You've had some tough knocks and some ups and downs in relationships so you have convinced yourself in your heart, mind and soul that you are just not a social animal. I am unliked because I am unlikable. You can learn to unwind and change this mindset.....but it will take some effort on your part. You must learn to take responsibility for the way you beat yourself up. You wouldn't tolerate it from someone else, would you?

Well, what is there about me that is likable?

You have the capacity to improve yourself. You have learned that being a loner gives rise to loneliness and inner turmoil.When you evaluate your social history you can see that your loner attitude has not got you where you really want to be.

A caterpillar has no choice but to become a butterfly. But you can make a conscious decision to change your attitude. You are not locked in to being a caterpillar. You can actually choose to make something of yourself. You were not born a loser. You have chosen with your own free will to see yourself as a loser. It's time you made a conscious decision to see yourself a person with the potential to become happy and to experience successful and meaningful relationships.

We think of power as exerting control over other. This is not power. This is actually control. Real power is exerting control over your own emotions and way of thinking. This is called empowerment over the self.

LOBSTER POWER

When a lobster grows, the shell can be confining and oppressive. The lobster then retreats to an underwater formation where it can be safe from predatory fish, casts off its confining shell and grows a new, more spacious one. As its growth continues, this shell too becomes confining and oppressive and the lobster again discards it and produces a larger one. This process is repeated until the lobster reaches maturity.

The lobster's signal that it's time to cast of the old shell is a feeling of discomfort. If lobsters had access to valium they might never bother to discard their old shell. They would stay addicted to their old way of thinking about life and about themselves. "It hurts" they would say, " but at least I'm used to it". They would rely on drugs but would never grow.

Your signal to cast off your old shell and way of thinking of yourself is the feeling of loneliness and your discomfort because of that feeling. You don't really want to stay a loner, lonely and unhappy the rest of your life...but you're used to that way of thinking and being.

Its time to access your spiritual self by saying to yourself: Enough is enough. I am not satisfied with this life attitude and I am going to take steps to change it . I am empowered to change my attitude because I have a God-given gift called free choice . I now choose to exercise it.